‘Being savoir
faire and not giving a shit are inextricably linked’ (Me in 2013)
This quote has no relevance, I just really like it and I like being irreverent.
‘Confidence
is a stain you can’t wipe off’ (Lil Wayne)
People (Lil Wayne at least) talk about confidence like its something you have or don't, I disagree i think you can learn' it to an extent.
A colleague
of mine said he wanted to be confident, and asked me how to do it. I half
joking replied: ‘Just be more like
me, don’t care about stuff’
This
quasi-arrogant, quasi-advisory comment made perfect sense to me, but he replied
– 'Yeah, I don’t know what that means, can you explain what that means, I don’t quite
get it' and this was yet another example of how my brain misses steps.
My brain
creates direct links from point A to B, except to others the argument I sometimes make are not point A to B but A to C and I miss out B. Case in point: Being
like me and not caring (Point A) equates to having confidence (point C). Whilst
this seem perfectly linear to me, I realised my brain is broken. In fact through the experience of this conversation I have realised this was not linear and there was a requirement to connect the dots. I know this
because my friend said 'I have no idea what that means, that doesn’t make sense,
explain how not caring makes you confident, and what do you do that makes you
confident.'
So here is part B:
